How Serious Is Your Man About You?
How Serious Is Your Man About You?
Many times during my reading sessions I am asked by female clients about whether a man is serious about them?
It can be hard to read people these days. Examples of questions asked are - Does it matter how long it took to return my text? Why did he give me attitude because he only sent one word, or is he just really busy? Why is he not contacting me? Why is he not expressing himself to me? Is he really into me, or is he just playing me and, how can I tell? Most men just aren't all that willing to throw caution to the wind and reveal what they feel to women they're involved with. Men typically keep their feelings to themselves which is great for them, but not so great for women. Women struggle with finding security in their relationship and that's even harder if her man isn't giving out any clues about what's going on in his heart. Instead of waiting for him to reveal how he feels,.start looking for some tell tale signs in his behaviour. Whenever a man is serious about a woman, he starts doing several very telling things. He Pays Attention To Little Details Paying attention to and knowing your likes, dislikes, hobbies or your dreams, shows a man who’s in it for the long haul. He will also notice the way you eat, dress, walk, make up, your hair etc. and will want to memorise every detail about you that he can. He Takes The Initiative On Making Plans With You. No matter how busy a man is, if he really wants to see you, he will make time for you. No excuses, lies, or broken promises. If he is into you, he won’t be putting off making plans. In fact, he will be taking the initiative to make suggestions and set dates. See it as a red flag if he is always ‘too busy’ for you, yet seems to have time to go out with his friends. He Talks About The Future And Includes You In It For the most part men are more about the here and the now when they are strictly in a dating frame of mind. They often don't plan much beyond today and they certainly aren't thinking about a future with any woman they're just casually seeing. When that changes and he is more forward thinking making plans, starts talking about his future, or rather, your future together, then you know that you own a piece of his heart. This can be subtle, so listen for it carefully. He Has No Interest In Other Women The way a man acts around other women will give you insight into how he feels about you. If you catch him constantly glancing around the room at other women, that's not promising for you. The same is true if he has several female friends he talks about endlessly yet you've never met them. When a man is serious about a woman he'll be focused solely on her and he will welcome the opportunity to introduce his female friends to her. Spends As Much Time With You As Possible If you're dating a man and he sometimes stands you up or calls at the last minute to cancel, never overlook that. Even if he has a very believable excuse for it, don't be fooled. If a man is serious about a woman he will do everything in his power to be with her as much as he can be. He needs to because it's the most important thing in his life. He Introduces You To His Friends And Family If he proudly presents you to the other people he cares about most like friends family or business associates, it’s because he wants to integrate you into his life. Perhaps, just as importantly, he starts making statements that you’re going to be around for a while, so you’re someone that these people should know. A man isn’t going to bother with showing you off to his friends and family, when he knows it’s only a matter of time before you’re replaced by someone else. How To Earn His Respect And Loyalty Do you want to know how to earn his love and get him to commit being in a relationship with you? Do you get so nervous when you are around him that you forget what you are trying to say? Do you need tips to help you win the man that you've had your eyes on? Respects You As You Respect Yourself Respect plays a big part in relationships. How can you expect someone to love you if they do not even respect you? You can gain his respect just by how you carry yourself. You have to dress the part. Dress as if you really care about your appearance and your perception. You must have your own life goal or plan. Not simply be reliant on him to provide for all your needs. Otherwise he will simply see you as a gold digger. Sex Isn't Going To Make Him Fall In Love If you want to make a man fall in love, then you have to hold off on sex. Sex isn't the key that is going to let you win his heart. Sex is an unnecessary distraction to a man who is still trying to sort through his emotions. When you have sex too early on, you are effectively fuelling the physical part of the relationship, and if that isn't balanced with the emotional side then he is only lusting after you. Lust is a powerful emotion.. When you are sure that you have a solid emotional connection, then is the time to get more intimate. Sex will then bind you together. However, it is not something you want to use as a foundation for your relationship. Stay Positive And Happy Happiness is contagious and men are attracted to it. Men love women who brighten their day. You need to keep a positive view on life. Why is that important? If you have a positive mentality, then it will flow over to every other aspect of your life. Men don't really want women who are depressed and sad all the time. You will earn his love if you can just be a positive happy person. so you need to keep a positive attitude. Don't Be Too Dependent On Men You should be your own person first, a lover second. If you can't function correctly without a man in your life then you should consider making some changes. Women are much more independent these days in general and often live on their own. So these days, men are more likely to follow with this trend If you can be content on your own, then you will be even happier when a man is on your side later on. Focus On Friendship You can earn a man's love by focusing on building a friendship early on in the relationship. Some women want to jump into a deep, romantic relationship too early on. Start off with some sort of foundation i.e friendship. Don't get nervous if the relationship isn't moving as fast as you want it to. Just be patient Men want a relationship to start off pressure free, so build on friendship first. Do these things and you will earn his love and respect. Men Take Longer To Fall In Love Men generally take a much longer time to fall in love then women do. While you can't get him off your mind, he may still see you as just another friend. It may even seem at times that men themselves aren't even sure what they are looking for in a women. Mind the same can be said for women. One day they like one thing, and the next day it's something else. These days, in the fast world of information technology, we are bombarded with so many choices, it becomes difficult to adjust one's thinking to the long term. Slow Down Your Pace And Be Patient Don't expect a man to feel the same way as you right away. You have to understand that most men move at a much slower pace than women do when it comes to long term relationships, as opposed to one night stands. It is not necessarily because they are scared, or because they don't like you. Men are just naturally more guarded of their emotions. It will take some time before he trusts you enough for him to open up to you completely. If is very important that you are patient and allow him to sort through his emotions and thoughts. Pushing him or rushing him will indicate to him that you are only interested in a one night stand or needy and may backfire on you if your intentions are longer term. Moving at his pace is a good practice to have, there is no need to get impatient. Be There For Him Whilst you are waiting for his emotions to catch up with yours, be his friend. The good thing about men is that they are just as open to friendship as girls are, and friendship is a great foundation to build a relationship on. Do things with him that you know he enjoys. But also introduce him to your interests too, after all he needs to get to know you and your likes as well. Be there to talk to him when he is struggling with a problem. Cheer him up when he is down. It is much easier for a man to open up to a woman he considers to be his friend, than a complete stranger. Talk To Him It doesn't really matter what you talk about. It is just really important that you have a constant stream of communication. Communication is what will keep your relationship healthy years down the road, so keep talking. Talking is also what will seal the deal with him. The better you can talk to each other, the faster he will fall for you. Does His Actions Match His Words A man (or woman for that matter) can talk a certain way, and then act another way. Words are nice, but they are always drowned out by actions. Early on in a relationship, watch what someone does more than what they say. Words can be dishonest, but actions can’t. Conclusion Believe it or not, it is who you are on the inside that will make a man fall in love. All of the other stuff maybe nice, but he is going to fall in love with your personality, your demeanour, your humour, your strength.and your loyalty. He is not going to fall in love with the bikini your wearing, or the new colour you dyed your hair. Again, all of those things might attract him to you initially, but when push comes to shove, it is you that his heart will come to love.
Mostly, be honest with yourself. A woman’s intuition is a powerful force and yet so many choose to ignore it. Don’t let yourself get played because you refused to see the signs you know you saw. A woman’s intuition is a powerful force and yet so many choose to ignore it. Don’t let yourself get played because you refused to see the signs you know you saw. Your natural instinct as a woman will rarely steer you wrong. If you feel that you two are deeply connected, you are. If you have a nagging feeling that something doesn't quite add up with him, chances are good that he's not as serious about you as you are about him. When you fall in love, it’s natural to wonder if this man could really be "The One". You start imagining the possibility of a real future with him and getting excited about how great your lives together could be.
Learning the hard way that the desire for that kind of commitment isn’t always a two-way street can be hard to digest. If you’re not sure if your man is going to drop out before he reaches the finish line, keep an eye out for signs that he’s playing for keeps.
Michael J Robey
Psychic Medium | Psychic Investigator